need advice

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me: did you ever move into your new apartment or did corona mess with your plans?

her: no I never did. I decided to save to buy a place instead of throw my money away on rent. also, me and my ex are talking about getting back together so I may be moving back

her: I won't be moving for a while though. probably not until the end of this year

me: hmmm well we should hang out before then if you're still interested. work is starting to slow down for me because of corona so I will actually have some free time real soon

her: yeah that would be fine :)

me: only fine? raised eyebrow emoji

when she double texted that she wasn't planning on moving for around 8 more months I took that as a sign to try to set something up and she agreed but then I tried to flirt/tease about her only saying it would be "fine" and she stopped responding (24 hours ago). did i read too much into her reply or does that count as a soft close? also what is the next step? I cant invite her to my place (that's why I asked my first question) so how can I get her to invite me to her place? I cant think of any alternatives with corona going on

avilench .

Robert Stevenson

I cant invite to my place because I live with my parents who are strict and one is high risk for COVID. I guess I just need to get an apartment cuz I have saved a lot of money to afford one but I would be scraping by/cutting into my savings a bit each month unless I can get a new job which obviously is not very likely for a while. Id still rather live like a bum on my own than stay with my parents tho since its really toxic here.

as far as texting her I guess I'll just wait like you said then try to ask her schedule and slip in the fact that I cant have people over cuz I havent told her that yet so maybe that would cue her to invite me. this is a girl I have known for a while idk if that makes any difference. I went to her place several years ago with the excuse of driving her home from a bar and she invited me in (nothing happened despite me staying til friggin 5 AM because I was and still am clueless when it comes to this stuff). so theres no stranger danger fear going on for her, I just wasnt sure how to propose that option again. my only other idea is bringing up the idea of a movie night and maybe go that route if that is a thing people do? like netflix and chill but basically dont say that in case its too sexual.