My Tinder Date Fail

I decided to meet a girl from tinder who didn't want to come over to my place on the first meet but I figured I will seed the pull and pull her for wine or plausible deniability.

Once I met her I noticed she was damn near as tall as me which is a turn off because I prefer little girls. She was 170cm and wearing heels. I think this was my fault because I'm around 187cm and I told her that she could wear heels and still feel very little next to me. But in reality she was damn near the same height as me.

I started to do a soft close at a high point. When she was laughing. I said "Do you drink wine" and she said she likes "sparkling wine" so i just went with it and said "Perfect! After this lets split a bittle on my romantic balcony" and she says "Not today!" So then I wanted to get to the core reason. She says she wants to get to know more first and i just said "it's best to know someone over some wine" then it was silent.

I did a vacuum and waited for her to ask me something but nothing. I didn't want to invest too much into the convo and let her chase but she never asked me anything. I had thoughts about ending the date cause i thought i dont even want to pull her anymore. I can't even verbally escalate. She never did anything for me to reward her.

Then after we ate, she asked me "Where do you want to go next". In my head I am thinking. "My place". But she says she wants to buy lipstick at Sephora, so I went with her to Sephora and just thought to myself damn I don't want to be here. So I told her was going to the restroom and then I waited outside. Just as I thought that I was gonna walk away and ditch her, there she was.

Now she was saying she wants to eat cake. The fuck man I'm on a diet. I told her I'm full. I don't want dessert. She was showing me all these restaurants for Cake and Ice cream. She picked a cafe i told her I'll have some tea. The place she chose didnt have tea, so she went to this other place we looked at the menu and it has tea. I just said ok and we sat down and ordered my tea and she ordered her ice cream.

During this time, she was going on her phone a lot more and I just went on my phone and im thinking what I should do. I had a thought that I would just stand up and say im gonna go to the restroom and then ditch her but i just felt bad doing that.

So after the bill came i paid for my $5 tea and she paid for her $10 ice cream after this we went to the bathroom and i decided to wait because I told her I'm going home after this. She called her friend and she said her friend was in the same mall so she was gonna meet her after.

I was like nah im not gonna hang around while you meet your friend. So I told her bye. I didn't go for any kiss or hold her hand or verbally escalate. Because there was nothing about her I wanted to validate her on. I started by saying she has nice long hair.. do you like to get your hair pulled? She says "No". When she bought her lipstick, I said "You have very kissable lips"
But she didn't even care so I just mentally gave up halfway through the date.

What could I have done differently and what do you usually do if you want to pull but she keeps saying "Not tonight. No, I don't want to go back to your place". Do you just say Ok but then take her there anyways and treat it as a soft no? I treated it as a Hard no. But I was thinking in hindsight, next time if she says No, just lead her there anyways and say "It's a surprise" until we get there and then if she still says No then end the date?