Love Report (Old): Ecuadorian Girl from CL - A Lesson in Persistence

This an old one that spans the course of 7 years when aim.com/mail and Craigslist Personal Connections were still a thing. One that I look back as one of my proudest moments in game. Despite having "failed forward" through the process. Keep in mind that this is at a time when I wasn't really making an adamant effort to learn pickup/game/social dynamics.

Craigslist had always been a curiosity to me that I always wanted to try. Here, I'm not entirely sure how it started. Either I made a post and she messaged me or the other way around. One or the other.

She's about 5'7' or taller, Ecuadorian, busty with implants, lean figure, and an accent. Let's rate her as a 9 (then) and 8.4 (as I view her now). Experience and personal preference will change these things over time.

We start exchanging messages. Not much in terms of breaking rapport or comfort building. We quickly started talking about the meet, and what we'll do once we get there. She gives me her number, and... nothing. "What do you mean nothing?" Admittedly, I didn't text, or call, or anything. I was too damn nervous. All the signs were there. She was DTF. But it was a lot for me to process. This... wasn't exactly me. But I wanted her. In the end, I opted to do nothing. Some years go by and I regret not following up with her. Until I set out to find her again on CL.

There were some details that I remembered about her. After some scrolling through CL I found her post. After reaching out we started messaging one another. Get her number and take things to the phone. One landslide of an advantage that I had was remembering her turn ons from the last time. That helped tremendously. Here's where I ran into some resistance. For some reason she, while there was comfort, she wasn't ready. This could have been because she was overworked, stressed, or uninterested. But the conversation was stale and lead to nowhere. At the time I thought that the cold vibe meant it was a dead end. So, I gave up... for a year.

Fast forward a year. I'm remembering all that had happened, and nervously - key word - tried once more. Remember, we hadn't said much to begin with, and nothing for about a year. Now I couldn't tell you what I said. Those texts have long since been deleted. They weren't much, but it lead to us finally meeting. The sex was great. She had a bit of a kinky side to her. Today, years later, were still in contact and having sex every so often.

TAKEAWAYS

• Let good enough be good enough. The planets don't have to be aligned in order to make things like this happen. Work with what you've got, better your best to maximize assets, and execute.
• Persistence is key. Yes, there is such a thing as too much. But so is too little. Sometimes, as I picked up from Todd V, there is no other option. Even if it comes across as somewhat needy. There may be no other way. You can still control the frame after initial investment. Acting and behaving as if there's attraction is far better than the opposite.
• Maintain a willingness to mess up and mess up badly. How else are you going to know the extremes? Two common problems are when guys (specifically) don't escalate out of fear, or try to close on negative compliance. We have to test those boundaries in order to find that balance and how to adapt to the variety of "blueprints" from women.

NOTE: This experience came at a time when I did not have the best pictures available. My knowledge of concepts and principles of game were not what they are today, and even now, there's a lot of work to be done in all areas. Living situation was with family. 5'6", 145 lbs (+/-), on the paler side, and lean but neither overly muscular or shredded, to name a few things. I took what I had at the time and made it work for me as best as possible. So get out of your head and stop standing in your own way.