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I think I fucked this all up for myself but hope I have a chance at redeeming it.
I'm recently divorced and have a child with disabilities...which complicates things. If it was not for my son, I would say I'm probably a 7/10.
I have been talking to this super hot girl who was my old neighbore who I had a friendly relationship with while I was married and have tons in common with. So I texted her a bit and then called her up asked her out on a date maybe 2 months ago and she told me that she just became "exclusively official" with another guy and couldn't. I gave her some space but then we started texting again and have actually hung out 3 times since then. Because I thought she was dating someone, I was trying to be respectful and not flirt with her...but now I think that line about dating someone was a bunch of crap and was just her way of letting me down easy.
After watching Playing With Fire videos, I've realized I have been doing all sorts of beta crap with her over the last 2 months. Texting her way to much, double and triple texting her, texting her as soon as we finish hanging out, not flirting at all and just coming off as really needy....admittedly, because I'm recently divorced and not used to living in an empty home and a little depressed and drinking more...which is why I have been so beta and texting her all the fucking time.
My question is, how do I recover from this situation and get out of this weird friend zone I'm in?
For starters, I did tell myself I am not going to text her for at least 7 days starting today.
your not going to like this answer man but my adivece would be to forget about this chick and move on, its going to be 10x harder for you to fix things with this girl than to just meet a new one. Go out and bang a few chicks then you can look at this situation from a fresh perspective.
Probably to late to save this if you’ve hung out 3 times without sex I would start fresh and not text this girl again until you’ve had sex with someone else.
I know exactly where you’re at I’ve been. Met a super hot neighbor about a month and a half ago, had her over the first night and didn’t escalate, couple more times of that and now we’re just cordial. She actually is the reason I discovered PWF and I thank her for that Lol, in this past month I do think about her time to time but not in the same dreadful needy yearning way before but a damn I just need one more shot lol, but what I did was started watching PWF videos and one of the first things I had to learn was abundance mentality, and purpose, focus on making myself better via all the things Alex talks about, gym, fashion, haircut, and adopt a better mindset, just practice optimism in general and motivate yourself. (Stopping drinking might be an option as far as damage control). I told myself I’m gonna improve for me, and the me of the benefits of being me is liking to fuck women so that falls under that umbrella. It’s important not to make it your purpose but follow your purpose and that will come with it and a guaranteed benefit. Basically hit the gym and try to fuck as many girls as possible if you’re starting simple. Don’t be afraid of rejection from 1 girl. My neighbor is a Cuban American with a smoking hot body and green eyes, however, this past week, thanks to wanting to improve myself and PWF, and Alex, and the forums, I had a just as hot Brazilian chick drive from Orlando to spend the night and found out once she was at my doorstep that she didn’t even speak English Lol. Hope this helps bro. TRUST THE PROCESS
