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What's up, bros? I'm pretty new to PWF and this community. I'm in a weird, transitory season of life currently, but I'm excited to start using what I'm learning here. Please help me navigate this situation cuz I'm not sure what to do.
I live in Colorado, but I'll be in my hometown in Iowa through July (responding to familial crises). A couple Saturdays ago, I met this super hot babe that I went to high school with at a bar. I met her through a mutual friend, who happens to be her best friend and the chick my homie is currently banging. Though she's way hotter than chicks I normally pull, I handled her as if I'm the prize because, well, I am. I DHVed on various things she's into.
I pulled her number at the bar, then unexpectedly after bar close her friend, my friend, she, and I went to her friend's house and hung out til 4am.
The vibe at her friend's place was weird... sitting on a big couch in a well-lit living room, no more drinking, no spare room for privacy, and just not my space or hers so it felt like we were guests. I got the sense that she's not the impulsive, slutty type of girl who'd bone a guy she just met on her friend's couch. The conversation was fun and effortless, but I didn't touch her aside from the fist bump she gave me when I left. When I caught up with my buddy later, he told me that after I left she said something along the lines of, "He's super cute and I'm interested, but I'm not just going to sleep with him."
I'm not going to make excuses; I fucked up by not sexualizing at the bar or at her friend's house. I sent her a text message the following evening (Sunday) DHVing myself on something we'd talked about before I left but she didn't respond. On Thursday, I texted to ask if she'd recovered from our late night yet. We swapped a few get-to-know-you vibe sort of texts, then I called it a night. Friday, I friended her on Facebook (she promptly accepted) so she could see my most recent post which I'm sure will raise her attraction and intrigue further. However, I noticed that she's listed as being in a relationship for 4 months. This doesn't bother me because I take it as a good sign that she gave me her number, never brought it up, and told my buddy she's interested.
So, what do I do now? At minimum, I would love to bone this girl. Ideally, we could have ourselves a hot summer fling while I'm around. I've already told her to hit me up the next time she's in town which she seemed into, and I'm considering manufacturing a reason to go to her town just to create an opportunity to cross paths again. I'm in the market for a new vehicle so maybe I'll go there to check some out. Normally I wouldn't put forth so much effort, but she's soooooo fine and there's no one around my hometown that I'm even remotely interested in because it's an endless sea of overweight, single moms. I want to be assertive and make it happen without appearing like I'm trying too hard or being needy.
Why worry about building attraction via text and buying cars and all that instead of setting up a day 2? Although I suppose facebook could have helped.
Frame a drinks date near your place, soft close and hard close, tell her to wear something cute, escalate on the date, bait to pull to your place (pics from colorado or something), pull
Thanks, fellas. My takeaway is that I'm making it out to be more difficult than it needs to be. I'll keep it simple and see what happens.
I agree. I feel like he’s investing too much and anytime I do that it breaks attraction. Just be cool and live your life. Set up the 2nd date and don’t be going out of your way to be in her life. If she agrees to the 2nd date it’s easy peasy.
Check out a video I have "How to Make a girl Interested over text". In it, I literally breakdown how to build attraction and get a girl to drive far to see you
The night at the bar would have been the time to make something happen. I hope you get her reengaged over text tho brotha. You think you've slipped into a platonic vibe with her?
Damn it. The screenshots won't upload. Here's the reply I deleted.
I messed up by not making a move, but I'm not convinced that first night was the prime opportunity. Again, she doesn't strike me as the impulsive type. Or at least not with me on that night on that couch. I think showing restraint that night will benefit me if I play it right from here.
I wasn't getting much from her in the few texts we exchanged. I don't know that it's quite platonic, but she's def not displaying much interest. Since the screenshots won't upload...
Me: Recovered from our late night yet?
Her: Almost. Looking forward to a low key weekend though coming up.
Me: Worth it. Whatcha got in mind for your low key weekend?
Her: No plans. That's my idea of the perfect weekend.
Me: Ooo girl soak it up. Just don't forget to call yo mama on Sunday. You close with your fam?
Her: Yes, very close to them. I am actually meeting them on Sunday for dinner for Mother's Day.
Me: That's sweet. I'm making my mom brunch. I don't miss much here, but fam is def a huge one. I'm beat from a killer workout. Have a great no-plans weekend.
Any suggestions on where to go from here? I was thinking about asking her where she took her mom, then follow up with something along the lines of "sounds almost as fun as what I've got planned for us."
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