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Tinder conversation below, no photos since she unmatched but I reproduced it from memory.
Matched with this girl last night and we started vibing a bit. Used some classic sexual/flirty investment, screening, and soft close. Seemed like it was going fairly smooth until she unmatched this morning. Should I have built more non-sexual investment so she would see I am a normal person? I think I have a tendency to go for the close too quickly. Seems like she got scared away after mentioning the alcohol.
Me: Can I be honest
Her: Go for it
Me: You're just my type ;)
Her: Oh yeah? What's your type?
Me: Short brunette with a cute smile.. plus nursing
Her: Haha I guess I have all the fixings :)
Me: Lol as long as you have sexy nurse scrubs ;)
Her: Haha I may winky emoji
Me: Imagining you in them now...
Her: Haha they're light blue
Her: Like the chat boxes
Me: A picture is worth a thousand words ;)
Her: Hahah you'll have to trust me on this one!
Me: Touché, maybe I'll see you in them on our date
Her: Bahahah nah I stick to wearing them only for school and work :)
Me: Oh I bet. So what are you looking for on here
Her: Tbh just going with the flow right now lol, was looking for a relationship before but that hasn't worked out too well...
Me: Ah same deal here lol. Do you like wine
(So far 2 hour conversation 9:45 pm to 11:45 pm, her responding quickly within ~5 minutes, me ~10-15 minutes)
(Below is next morning)
Her: Honestly not really :)
Me: Oof what's your goto drink
UNMATCHED
I don't think you did anything wrong. Maybe she deleted her dating app or just had a bad date with some other guy and she swore off dating apps completely. These random situations will happen from time to time
The picture comment seemed a bit needy, though there was some compliance sexually before with her "helping" you imagine her and could possibly have passed due to being funny, the seeing her in them on the date escalates after non compliance, perhaps you saw it as a pullback, but in her eyes probably seemed needy as well. Seemed like a whole lot of push and not much pull back on your part, probably it was the overall vibe, and the oof sealed it, like Andrew pointed out I also would not use that word.
Pro type: take screenshots of Convo as it progresses that way you don't lose it
I’d wait to hear what other people think but the “Oof, what’s your favorite drink” was a bad line.
You should never say Oof to a girl
