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I don't know if this is a common fenomena or just me fking something up, but I have no trouble scalating on the apps and getting girls agreeing to a date(spmetimes very clearly sexual) and sending me their number, but it seems they always go flakey, non responsive, hard to get etc when over text.
It feels like they feel it's "getting real" and put up a wall, which I fail to overcome. I have a very similar feeling when talking to girls on the app who I matched and are too far from me to actually set up a date, and so they are always more talkative and sexual, saying things like "If I were in your city we would totally hook up" etc., like the fact it is not doable makes them confortable.
So far the only idea I've got is trying to build some more rapport both on the app as well as over text( I usually just go for "hey, sup" followed by setting up the date), since I usually number close them quite fast on the app.
Any help is really appreciated!
Hey, I can help you, but I need to see the screenshots first man.
I'll do my best because I'm Brazilian so it's in Portuguese.
So, just as an example, the chick I matched/talked yesterday on tinder. Seems pretty DTF with pics on bikini and bare boobs covered by her hair etc. (I have a pretty fuckboi profile with handcuffs in one of the photos and stuff like "BDSM aficionado" on bio.
It starts like this:
Me: Hey sexy. How are you doing?
Her: I'm fine, how bout you?
Me: Just chilling at home, relaxing my beauty for our romantic date.
Her: I must confess I lol'd 'laughing emoji'
Good, save yourself for our romantic date.
Me: I'm going to the park tomorrow and do some pullups and pushups and stay fit for it. Do you have a date in mind?
Her: wow, such a dedicated man. I knew I didn't deserve anything les than that.
Look, depending on the time, my days are very chill.
Me: No doubt, my six-pack is coming so you can wash your panties on it.
Tomorrow is a holiday, what do you think?
Her: That's just what I needed, a six-pack so I can wash my panties.
What time? I need to buy some clothes and take some pictures for my graduation. It can only be at night.
Me: End of the day or at night is ideal for me. I'll be going to a barbecue tomorrow.
Shoot me your whatsapp so we can make plans.
Her: 'number'
Over whatsapp:
Me: Hey, your "washing machine" here :) (talking about that six-pack thing and her washing her panties)
Her: Heyyy, Miss Maria here who is going to wash the clother 'lol emoji'
Me: Hey, Miss Maria, have you got the laundry tokens?
Her: Laundry tokens?
Me: So you can use the washing machine, have you never lived in a condominium? lol (the banter was kinda weird, hope you can understand. She was also taking longer to answer than on the app).
Her: Never 'some weird emoji'
I didn't know I needed tokens, how can I get them?
Me: I'll tell you tomorrow during our romantic date with wine and sensual music.
Her: 'some weird emoji'. (felt like not a great response.)
Me: 'confused emoji'
Her: I loved the sensual music part.
Me: Right? Maybe I will do some strip tease for you if you deserve it.
Her: 'little girl gif written "I like it"'
Me: How does 19h sound to you?
Her: It's better at 20h so I will not be late. I don't like to keep ppl waiting.
Me: Wow, this is rare nowadays! 20h it is ;)
End of conversation.
Today at 14:30
Me: Hey, did you find your sexy outfit for the graduation?
Her: Hi, I didn't have time, there was an unforeseen event and I had to get back to the coast. (We are 1h from beaches here.)
Me: Damn. So I guess our romantic date is postponed, right?
Her: (3 hours later at 18h)Unfortunately yes, 'crying emoji'
Me: You are breaking my heart. The candles were already lit.
No fking response.
oh ok, That helps a lot man. descent text game all the way through, but for the last text when she rescheduled, I would have said, "Breaking my heart ___," instead of that because it came off you were butthurt she did not come. Another thing to add: Typically I don't set the date up until the girl says she is on her way. I'll send a text like,"Cool, text me when otw" so that she doesn't flake on me for nothing. I would wait 48+ hours and do a mild takeaway, "If you're too nervous, I'd understand"
yeah man, that's actually somewhat common, the best and only thing you can do is make the transition into the date as smooth and progressive as possible. You don't want things to get "too real too fast" check out my 5 steps to setting up a date video for more insights into this
Hey trouble! Yeah, I've seen your videos multiple time by now, glad you pitched in. I'll definitely try going a lil bit slower, I'm feeling too gamey right now going for the sexual vibes and the kill too fast.
Funny I was just watching one of your videos "LIVE Text Game Demonstration - Texting Examples of Flirting & Banter", I don't remember having watched. It shows you in a much more relaxed vibe, having "normal talk" for the most part with chicks. For some reason I thought you were pretty much always going balls to the walls lol.
I'll try and emulate that.
