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What`s up community!
I have a situation rn where I met this girl (25, 8.5, laycount of 4 with 2 ltr). she was giving me full compliance during our whole Interaction (Tinder) and the meet up (1st Date), without much resistance except for a little bit of lmr which I could deal with. We vibed a lot.I set the frame that I'm very sexually attracted to her but want to know more about her personality too, to see if this could potentially become more serious. We both agreed that we don't like to text much and prefer real interaction. So we agreed to write like once a day or so until our next meet up. I asked her to meet up the very next day via text, but she couldn't, and I asked her for another meetup for Wednesday and she took EXACTLY 24 hours to the minute to reply that she couldn't (is this a shittest or pure coincidence?) but she would love to meet up on the weekend. TBH I didn't like the fact, that she took so long to reply. Should I have called it out? I opted to just test for compliance by responding with "Okay thumps up". No further interaction so far. My question is, why is she not chasing me?? My gut feeling is that she is attracted but very shy and just not chasing because of that. Even though she would give compliance if I lead. I have no problem with leading but now I feel like I'm chasing too much and become needy. What do you guys think I should do?
Worrying about being needy is actually the most needy thing. Give it a few days and reengage.
I'm a little bit confused. Did you actually meet this girl? And if so, did you guys bang. And also post the screenshots so I know what's going on
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Thank you guys, I really appreciate the help! The chat is in german unfortunately (I'm an italian living in germany), but I will try to post a translation. Yes, we had our first date last saturday and we banged. Cedrics advice helped me quite a bit to be honest. I just waited a bit and reengaged. We had a second date this saturday. It was quite nice. We drank wine, had a walk in the park and when we got back to my place I gave her a nice massage and we banged. She slept over and we banged more the next day. I primed for the next date this upcoming weekend and she agreed. Now what I am concerned about is her lack of investment in texting in between our dates. I think she is GF-Material but she is not chasing me, and this is what I usually rely on to get into a relationship with them. Like Sam said, not every girl is going to chase us, but in my limited experience, a girl will eventually start chasing you at some point, like texting a lot and sending lots of kiss and heart emojis, usually after sex. But she is really not. If take a look at the time stamps you can see that she takes a while to respond and I'm often the one reengaging the convo. Also, before the first date, I was texting with lots of sexual innuendos, now as you will see in the screenshots, I'm texting pretty normal, is this a problem? And how should I proceed after her last "text"?
Stop overthinking and just relax bro. It doesn't matter how long she takes to respond as long as it's not 2-3+ days, then you maybe want to call it out with a "Don't think too hard etc." Post SS if you want help with your text game but banter for a bit and soft-close again. Try to progress things on the next hangout sexually and see where it goes. Girls won't always chase you, just have an abundance mindset, focus on some of the other stuff in your life and treat her as if she would be an addition, not the be all end all.
Rengage in a couple of days (2-3) near the meetup day and like I said, banter and bring up the idea of a meetup, ask her what her schedule is etc.
