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Hi guys,
I could use some perspective over here. But before that let me give some context
Context:
I met this chick in Bumble & interaction was smooth (thanks to free content provided by Alex & Nitin). For the first date, we met at a cafe & the date went okay. Then afterwards, we met for the second date last weekend. The date went well, I was able to escalate physically to a certain extent . Before getting on the cab, she hugged me for quite long & asked me to think of the next date. We texted that day & she agreed on meeting up for the third date but stopped responding to my text. She's active on instagram but not responding to the texts.
It's a little confusing for me to understand what had happened especially since the vibe was good. Also what is the move here ? Should I persist or move on? I am thinking of giving her a call later this week. But before that I want to leverage preselection (have pics with my past flings who are quite aesthetically pleasing)
PS: Since we are in a conservative culture, there is a logistic issue in terms of pulling her in. Generally the long game is followed because of this. Also not attaching the past screenshots since those are quite long
If she pulls back you need to pull the fuck back all the way. Keep in touch with her but don’t text her anymore and move on. If you have her social media, post photos of you with other girls and if she sees it then maybe gets jealous she’ll hit you up again for that third date. It might only work if the girl looks better than her and if she doesn’t hit you up, then hey...at least you have a new girl that’s interested in you.
Oh and I also forgot, it might just be that she’s into another guy because she has options from Bumble. This happens sometimes too, a lot of times if she doesn’t text back after you do the follow up text is because either 1. You are more interested in her than she is to you or 2. Someone else has her attention and sometimes it’s 3. Your timing with asking her out isn’t on time. Overall after dates you have to give the girl time to miss you. After the first date, you want to text back after hours or a day. After the second date you want to text back days to a week. There’s this one girl that I’m most successful with and I haven’t texted her back in four weeks. Sometimes you have to give time for her to ask you out because if she asks you out that means she’s really interested. If you never cross her mind and she doesn’t occasionally hit you up out the blue then your text messages might not be bad, it’s just your timing.
Thanks man, appreciate the thoughts. It could be there might be other guy but I know she had stopped using bumble & she mentioned that she had gone out on 1 date before me. And the guy turned out to be a creep. I'll play the preselection card & hit her up in a few days
I’d personally say don’t hit her up at all but you’d definitely probably want her to text back so you can have her wondering why you won’t respond to her rather than vice versa. But like I think I might’ve said before, the more texts you send, the more she loses interest so I’d wait for her to hit you up if you have her on social media. Waiting a few days might work because she might text you back before the day you plan on texting her back. You’ll figure it out, I trust you. Keep me updated.
Everything looks fine, just make sure to actually bang her before her ASD taps in. "Are you always this talkative"
Thanks man. Given how active she's on ig, she's ignoring my texts. Will try again in 2 days & have to take it a bit slow as there is a huge cultural ramification . Am thinking hard about the logistics incase she warms up. But is these type of reaction common? It's like everything changed in a single day
Yeah. I would probably persist more. Don't send her pictures of you with other chicks tho. You could try giving her a call and see if she picks up. And if she doesn't, give it a day and say something like "Serious question". Then after she responds to that, are you still interested in meeting up
Thanks Alex. Not sending her pics with other chicks, just posting party pics with other chicks on my stories.
I feel that your "cookie" followup was too cheesy. Ask her something genuine...
Never thought of it that way. Since she's a foodie, I thought this would be relevant to her but good point nevertheless.
Oh, I didn't realize or missed that she was a foodie. Please disregard my comment then! I would be genuine with her and not too slick, pickup-artist-y.
