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Hi guys, this is my first lay report from tinder with the help of playing with fire. I'm going to be as brutally honest as possible even though Ill most definitely look like a bitch. I hope this helps someone or at least lets people know that sometimes it sucks and you're not alone.
Last week I had my second tinder date ever (first was way fatter than pics and I wasnt into it) . The chick I matched with was a cute 5/10 face 8/10 slender body. Managed to get her to agree to come to my place for a bottle of wine after a short tinder/text convo. At this point it had been a few years since my last lay (yes really) so I was very out of practice. I set the date for 6 on a weekday. I am a very anxious person, not awkward per se but anxious so sleep the night before was minimal and nervousness was really high throughout the day. About an hour before the meetup time I went to my apartment gym for a quick workout. Normally working out is a huge emotional outlet for me but I continued to be incredibly nervous throughout (set some new PRs though I was killing it). After the workout I went up to my apartment to shower and get ready. This is where my anxiety got insane like full on panic attack. I literally wanted to cancel on her like a fucking pussy but I knew if I was this being this much of a bitch about it then I've become absolutely pathetic with women and I had to stick it out even if it killed me. I got the text that she was here and I got on my shoes and walked downstairs. I met her outside and despite being intentional about going for a front hug it ended up being a side hug which made me feel like even more of a bitch. With my voice shaking I told her to follow me up to my apartment which she did. On the way I made small talk ("how was your drive", "how was work") it felt like my whole body was shaking but I never slouched over or had poor body language or broke eye contact despite feeling like she knew I was a nervous wreck. I invited her into my apartment and started to get the wine out. I also asked her to get the glasses down from the top shelf to flex my height on her when she said she couldnt. We sat down on the couch and started talking. At this point I was still incredibly nervous and was just asking her questions and doing some teasing. I wanted her to just keep talking, the longer she talked the less I had to say. She was pretty talkative but there a few awkward silences which I made sure to not break eye contact as if I expected her to keep talking and just asked another question when she didn't. This whole time in my head I was screaming at myself to start escalating and start getting touchy but every time I would do it I would faulted and let it drift back to plutonic conversation. After about an hour and I half I was a little less nervous but not much. I had "dont bitch out" repeating over and over in my head like someone was talking in my ear. I decided to make one final move and started talking about her eye color or some shit. Of course I had to lean in to get a closer look and we started making out. After this the anxiety was gone in one second, I knew she was down and I just had to escalate to sex. After some good sex we just lay on my bed and talked for a few house until she had to go at like 2 in the morning. I made out a little with her at the door to confirm it was good for her too and she was off. I think shell be over again this week, just been texting occasionally and playing those stupid iphone games (good to keep the convo going lightly).
Congrats man. Its always a relief ending a dry spell and not easy
Great post! Sharing the highs and the lows is important.
Hey bro, I remember my first straight to house date. I had to smoke a few ciggies to lessen the nerves. It took a fair few fuck dates, maybe 30-40 before it became more of normal thing. After a while, it becomes quite boring actually. One thing that helps with the nerves is when you realise that as long as you are a half-way normal dude, the girl is going to fuck when she comes over to yours (literally 99% success rate). Another thing that really alleviated the pressure of making the makeout happen is to just ask her if she likes massages and then give her a massage. Smooth transition into sex and you don't have to worry about "awkwardly" going in for a makeout. In terms of keeping the convo going, just text normally like you would a friend, a few sexual expressions or memes here and there.
Awesome bro. And yup. It gets easier over time. I would just treat her as a friend. Text her in 1-2 days and say "Round 2 soon? 😏"
Thanks man fucked 3 girls now thanks for all your help. I'm not getting anxious at all now. I think I got oral chlamydia or something so taking a break for a bit till I get it figured out but would probably be at 5.
you should share your profile pics with us. my matches have dwindled down to like 1-3 per week and they’re usually bots smh. i know my pics suck but i need some inspiration.
Thanks for sharing man. I've never had a tinder hookup either so this is helpful.
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