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So I have this major issues in dates where girls that are clearly attracted to me dont even let me touch them because they like " personal space " or its " too soon " and we have to take things slow and thats obviously some insecure shit girls pull out of their ass.. how do I get through these " walls " ?
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yea 100% spot on i went on a date witha girl a couple of weeks ago barely did any sexualization, just dropped a few "oh baby dont turn me on like that" when talking about mundane stuff, day of the date i hugged her and then since its cold where im at i was like "damn its cold in here look" and extended my hands and she touched them etc etc we go to another bar and start making out then went for the lay so those things work !
Usually my standard is to hug them at the start, and then wait a few minutes like 5 then start holding her hand then in like 10 minutes I put my arm around her so I can go for the kiss pretty fast , so do you think im going for this shit too soon? Or maybe its something else? Thanks for the great advice btw
what does your bio say? Are screening for prudes in your profile?
It has words like dominant, and some shit about christian gray and blindfolds
Ngl this is kinda odd. I'm thinking it's basically uncalibrated escalation. You really shouldn't be getting these comments. I usually only escalate as much as I sense the girl is feeling it. It's honestly better to be less pushy than not push at all especially on the first date.
Even with a prude girl I can tell by get body language and mannerisms that I wouldn't get away with it.
Well, if she's clearly attracted to you then she would not be bringing this stuff up. It could be one of two things. 1, you're going out with girls who're prude. Or 2. You're escalating in an uncalibrated way. No way to really know which one it is without seeing some infield. But you could try inviting a girl straight over so that you know she's more dtf
What does your text game look like ? I do heavy sexualizing and have rarly a problem with that, if you dont't sexualize enough they might put you into the ''bf'' category.
A wall crusher i like too use : ''we are just having a great time together and whatever happens, happens''
I do mention kissing the girl or putting her against a wall and shit like that, I dont do heavy sexting anymore, depends on how safe I want to play it, some chicks give different vibes over text
