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Looking for unbiased feedback.
Matched with a girl on bumble, got her number. Texted her, set a date. I texted her the location a few days prior and she said she wanted to get to know me more.
Cool. We scheduled a call a day later and this is how it ensued.
Me & Her: Pleasantries. Hey, how are you, blahhh....
Her: What do you do?
Me: I am doing a minor in "x" engineering, and I know you won't believe me... but I also am doing a major in Pole dancing at "y" large University.
Her: Really?
Me: Yeah, I also work as strip clubs as part of the program. { I said this while giggling and in a sarcastic tone}
Her: My friend is interested in pole dancing too, she .. (stopped her here)
Me: It's a joke. I was not being serious. {Laughing.}
Her: Fuck you, Fuck you.
She then goes off on me and says I am making fun of strippers and pole dancers. I told her it was not going to work out and blocked her.
She was well educated and active in sports.
WTF HAPPENED HERE?
The problem could lie on either side, it's hard to tell from a text version of a phone call. If you made her feel stupid for not realising that you were joking, that's bad energy that you then have to deal with. Which you could have done, by bringing her in on the joke, so it's clear that you weren't making fun of strippers, but also that you're not backing out of the banter.
"Nah that's not it... the truth is I couldn't make it as a stripper... I rocked the hotpants but they said my boobs were too small"
"Tell me honestly, should I get implants? Just my boobs, or butt as well?"
From what you wrote, I can tell that either this girl is WEIRD AS HELL (in which case, well... case solved) OR was still unsure of you and wanted to test you.
Let's assume we're in the 2nd scenario.
You were acting a little cocky by teasing her and maybe she just wanted to make sure you were really confident on the inside so she tried to get you to react to her.
And she succeeded ! By arguing with her and BLOCKING HER, you might've over-reacted (again, I might be wrong, maybe she's just crazy).
I'll link screenshots of a conversation I had on Tinder with a girl that seems to be arguing with me, but still gives me her number at the end and in fact, seems to be even more attracted to me because of how UNPERTURBABLE I was.
Tbh I was in the same situation as you in that case and thought that she was fucked up too (which is probably true 😂).
She speaks arabic, so let me translate for you. In her last messages, "Lucky you andi ydayet behin hahaha" translates to "Lucky you I have good hands hahaha".
What I'm getting at is not saying you're wrong but that you can always turn the situation around.
However, if the girl is too fucked up it's not worth it and in that case, blocking her might be the best solution.
I didn't argue. She just cussed me out. I waited a couple of seconds and told her it wasn't gonna work out.
Then you did good my friend, it was the best decision.
Maybe she has people in her family that do pole dancing, and took it as an attack to their job.
What's certain anyways, no matter how educated and athletic she is, is that she has low self-esteem and/or is a feminist.
Anyways it's not important, there could be a million reasons why that happened. Let's move on to the next girl.
