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Okay so background. I day game cold approached this girl today at the mall today. By far the hottest girl I've gotten a date with online or cold approach (which I recently started adding into my overall game).
Side note there is 1000% a correlation to getting better looking women through cold approach then online and its worth the effort to learn day game (I have gone 3 for 15 on numbers with 1 date in my first 15 approaches but the girls who gave their number / this one that I am 99% sure won't flake are way hotter then the girls I generally match with online.
Anyway back to the situation. I seeded that we have a drinks date before getting her number in person and moved to text. I will share the entire exchange since it extremely far off of my online game. I watched all of Alex's videos on cold approach texting and it seems he takes a different path as well. Anyways I get her to agree to the a date on Monday (you can see how it played out). However I know it was not optimal and most of it felt so foreign to what I am used to with online matches. I tried screening and sexualizing but it felt off. I did get her to qualify herself but she clearly avoided the sexualization. I also know I did a pretty awful job of sexualizing during the cold approach as well and its something I want to improve quickly. Also my texts are probably giving off way too much investment but I wasn't sure what to do since it is pretty far outside of my gameplay. I think I was far too logical in this exchange as well and should have trolled a touch more.
Another note, she lives about 1 hour away from me but I am going to be in her area for an appointment on Monday which is one of the reasons why I opted for Monday instead of Saturday night next week. The other reasons were that she had something that Sunday morning anyways and it was going to be 8 days away from today. So I figured I would go for a day 2 frame with a public drinks date on Monday and a Saturday date at my place since logistics were bad for next Saturday anyways.
Last point, I saw after the fact she said "Monday could work" and I should have said "you don't sound that confident" but I missed that in the moment. Reagrdless I feel this is a very limited risk for flaking based on my in person interaction with her how she handled this exchange (she was leading toward the close and her response to setting up a location.
Anyway all critiques / feedback would be welcome.
As a rule of thumb I never go to a girl's location unless it's her house e.g.never meet a girl at bar or coffee near her place... Either she comes to my place or a spot near my place or you go to her place... Like Alex said get an airbnb and invite her over... If not then not sure I would do it... But this is for online game... With cold approach maybe different since you met and due to the situation and her schedule..
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Comes off very chasey from my perspective, seems to set her heavily in the prize frame. I haven't gone too deeply into day game txting yet so this may be the goal. But yeah, needy and chasey was the vibe I got
can you give specific areas that feel that way around needy and chasing?
I only see one message that feels a bit prize framing which is the one where I tell her I gravitate towards adventurous, ambitious & endearing girls but I don't feel I am chasing just setting logistics. The first weaknesses line is one that Alex has used a ton himself in videos but I think I should have shortened it to cute, outgoing and a bit of wild side instead of being longer with that remark. Maybe the "can't wait to hear about it" would be a bit much thinking about it as well.
I don't see that at all and my concern was investment levels and being too wordy.
I would re-engage and get a solid day. I think she is very invested. So, I wouldn't worry much. Maybe go to her side of town and rent an airbnb and try banging?
