18yo virgin. I’ve been on four first dates with girls I meant on dating apps, starting in September. For the first two, I was ghosted afterwards. On the third one, I briefly engaged over text with the girl, but she rejected my proposal of a second date because she didn’t feel strong chemistry. The fourth girl texted me first afterwards, but she recently stopped responding, so I’ve stopped texting her.  Following Alex’s advice, a big factor is likely that my interactions are too platonic/there’s not enough sexual tension being built. Last girl, I was at her place, literally on her bed, with my arm around her while we were watching a movie, and I couldn’t make sex happen. I asked her if she wanted to kiss me, and she said no.  I find escalating and building sexual tension difficult. I always try to say some flirty things here and there and make use of eye contact, but I have a hard time going beyond that. I’m not even just talking about making out or sex, I don’t know how to turn the make the conversation overtly sexual/romantic. I also wonder if something is wrong with my body language. 

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How does a girl get in your bed & doesn’t want to kiss you. There’s like 50 chances before this to build intimacy or sexual tension. You can kiss in a park bench or cinema or literally anywhere in public. What are you doing before that?

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Well, to give you some context, it was her bed, not mine.

I met her off Facebook Dating, and I came straight to her place. I tried to kiss her maybe an hour into watching a movie. I had my arm around her but she just didn’t want to, I don’t know why

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