“Let’s keep the first date casual and stick to drinks. There will be plenty of room for fancy dinner dates in the future :)” “That sounds amazing but for our first date I have a different plan” then offer to cook at my place and share wine on my balcony “Let’s keep the first date casual and stick to drinks. Food can make me sleepy”
That has not been my experience at all, UNLESS you meet up immediately after a flowing exchange that happens in a short time span.
Taking a week to soft close is usually better, a couple messages here and there, sometimes quick responses, sometimes waiting a day or two - that's the right balance IMO. She'll assume you've got other stuff going on and probably dating other women so basically no, you couldn't have offered to meet up immediately anyway. That's a dhv and shows patience restraint and yet persistence too. Agree to disagree I Guess.
I can see your point but from my experience when I've taken too long to reply, a lot of the times girls don't respond back. I've had feedback from girls I've banged saying they didn't think I was interested cos I wasn't replying to them quickly. So it's either that or they were talking to other guys and proceeded to a good interaction in a shorter time span.
