Matched with a girl on hinge, went out on a date and made out a couple of times. Things were then pretty sexual over text and we decided to schedule our next "massage date" at a hotel room (Because our place is not an option, we both stay with parents. Common here in India) and she was like "I've got 2 non-negotiables, I won't go down on you and no sex". BTW, I screened her earlier about her dating intentions and she was like "I'm experimenting" So I replied with classic PWF line "Ok. Do you hate sex or something" and she was like "No, I'm just not ready for it" so I took a takeaway and understood that the underlying meaning might potentially be that she is down only if I act cool around and not there just for sex, so I sent her "I get it, it's completely normal to feel that way. I don't come with any expectations, if it happens naturally great, if it doesn't I won't get butt hurt". After that we had some other back and forth texts again bit sexualized convo where I was teasing her about our last makeout and all. Did I handle this properly? And does this really mean that escalating things the next time will be v difficult?
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Okay so after trying to be very understanding and getting to the root cause on why she's being so sensitive about this and shutting down my escalation... she told me she's a virgin.
And she was in a relationship in the past with a guy and they broke up for this very reason where the guy wanted to have sex with her but she wasn't comfortable so they broke up. (ik most americans would not view this as a relationship but it's India here even talking phase is counted as a relationship lmao)
I kinda used take-aways and made her want to chase me by sending a couple of my shirtless mirror selfies and all that she became interested again to book a room in a hotel. Still she's very adamant about no sex and no bj. (I don't expect a bj the first time either) she's like we'll makeout, I can give her a massage and I can go down on her.
I wanna know what should I do more or less of that indeed makes her beg to want to have sex with me?
I'm not desperate to hook up with this chick. It's just I feel if we don't then it'll be platonic after that which I don't want. BTW I ain't a virgin so ik how to eat pussy but in this specific situation idk how to make her crave for me.
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I mean if you're gonna be alone in a hotel, you might as well try to close. But yea id try to build a lot of sexual tension and really make her horny first
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Any tips on doing it? I mean we sexted yesterday, she does like the idea and was bit receptive but idk if she's gonna turn down the last second.