Matched with a girl on hinge, went out on a date and made out a couple of times. Things were then pretty sexual over text and we decided to schedule our next "massage date" at a hotel room (Because our place is not an option, we both stay with parents. Common here in India) and she was like "I've got 2 non-negotiables, I won't go down on you and no sex". BTW, I screened her earlier about her dating intentions and she was like "I'm experimenting" So I replied with classic PWF line "Ok. Do you hate sex or something" and she was like "No, I'm just not ready for it" so I took a takeaway and understood that the underlying meaning might potentially be that she is down only if I act cool around and not there just for sex, so I sent her "I get it, it's completely normal to feel that way. I don't come with any expectations, if it happens naturally great, if it doesn't I won't get butt hurt". After that we had some other back and forth texts again bit sexualized convo where I was teasing her about our last makeout and all. Did I handle this properly? And does this really mean that escalating things the next time will be v difficult?

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A lot are hidden. Youtube took them down?

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Some are, but there's still a bunch that are still up

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