A lot of your statements and thinking are quite off. Whether girls care about kissing in public or not (most girls won't) doesn't nullify the fact that a bar is the best activity for a first date- public, casual, drinks. If the girl doesn't want to do pda, you can just pull her to another spot after. Secondly, the whole point of a safety concern is that it is something the girl has that prevents her from meeting you, obviously when you guys have agreed to meet, she thinks you're for the most part normal and there is no more safety concern. And yes, you can definitely have hot girls (actual hot girls not 6s & 7s) straight to your place but it generally requires a significant amount of calibrated, textgame (not PWF where you go from open to close within 10-30 messages). The most bang for your buck is going to be from public dates.