What I mean is when I don't punish non compliance

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I have a lot of old leads still on my snap and insta. I post the stories regularly and they check everyone of them. Whenever I reply to their stories they revert back, we have had some conversations, sometimes they send me snaps. But as soon as I invite them over or even try to take them to coffee, it falls apart. Either they dont respond or just say they're busy, i dont try to reschedule coz ofcourse I have tried that too in the past, it goes no where and then it looks like me chasing to get them and they just rejecting. What'd I do? Should I cut them off? Should I unfriend them. I have a man to woman frame with them, it's not friendly. The problem here was I never punished non-compliance because I was getting other chicks I didn't wanna come off as butt hurt. So what should I do next, should I continue doing my stuff and ignore them continue doing my stuff and keep re-engaging ocassionally jsut tell them it was nice getting to know them and block them jsut tell them it was nice getting to know them and unfriend them

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Desi Jedi

What I mean is when I don't punish non compliance it's basically like "oh you can repeat this behavior, nothings gonna happen"

I need to learn how to be assertive and not sound butthurt. I'm tryna get Mr. Nittin Pabba coaching but he's way toooo busy.

Zach H

To each their own... I'd recommend saying something that actually grabs their attention rather than trying to take it with assertiveness. Just think about it the other way around... Are you more like to reply to someone who sends you a funny/interesting message, or somebody that is making it clear that they want you to talk to them more?

Desi Jedi

Makes sense. Once I get the attention I'll try the famous Jeff wine sequence again and see how it goes. Thanks!

Leads gone cold