We matched on tinder and I got her number. I went for the soft close but she brushed it off. Basically I think when she asked for my insta, she’s not 100% sure of my pictures on tinder and need more reassurance. Anyways I’m thinking of leaving the msg as is and Reengage in 2 days with “Hey stranger” or “Hey you”. But if she initiate before that then continue convo and set up a date. What are your thoughts on how I should proceed?
Good suggestion I’ll take that phone call into consideration. In response to going straight into “when are you free for...” that’s something I’d say after a soft close such as “We should get together sometime” or like I did in my msg, “I’ve prepared a bottle of wine for us when you get back”
Why do you soft close if you have her number?
She even texted your number when you gave it out.If she didn't want to see you, she'd just not have texted you.
Stop soft closing because beating around the bush is going to turn her off. You'll look undecisive and unconfident.
Just tell her directly that you want to take her out, that's what she freakin wants.
I agree with both of you however, here is how I would approach it.
Hit her up and say something like “hola linda” or a ryan gosling meme etc. to open things up, get through a small amount of small talk (how’s your day, what are you up too) and then try to quickly soft close. remember, you have her # and she’s investing a good amount, now you have to sexualize, soft close and lock in a date. sorry i can’t be more specific on the soft closing and sexualizing, it just depends on the situation so let me know how it goes brother.
